17 of 30 Things to Stop Doing To Yourself and Start Doing For Yourself

Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.  You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.  But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.  You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of mind, or situation.  So smile!  Let everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.


I have had curve-balls thrown at me, two by fours knocking me in the back of the head, but nothing mattered until I mattered to me.  It took me many, many years to reflect back on what I've been through and the choices I've made over the years.  Ok, so I was a slow learner.  I've had some very pivotal moments that showed just how little I knew about myself, but as I reflect back now, I know I had choices but didn't know how to make them at the time.  WM of PBC


Start looking for the silver lining in tough situations. – When things are hard, and you feel down, take a few deep breaths and look for the silver lining – the small glimmers of hope.  Remind yourself that you can and will grow stronger from these hard times.  And remain conscious of your blessings and victories – all the things in your life that are right.  Focus on what you have, not on what you haven’t.


I know it's easy for others to tell us, it will be OK and it will get better.  I have experienced things that most people haven't and when someone offers advice but doesn't relate, it can be quite hard to accept what they have to say.  When we are in the situation, we may not believe that it will or can get better.  Seeking out someone to talk with may be your starting point when things go awry.  I didn't  seek help from others and it took me a long time to trust myself,  and once I did, it allowed me to start trusting others.  WM of PBC